CAROLYN SANTOS.COM

Endorsements

quote    
 

My husband, Mike, and I got married and had a wonderful relationship for years. Then, we had a baby and, as they say, everything changed. There was so much more work to do, less time to spend together and less sleep for both of us. It really took a toll on our marriage and relationship. He was more distant and less helpful. And, I was getting less patient and more resentful. I also felt less loved and appreciated while getting more overworked, over stressed and over tired. So, I decided to call Carolyn. We didn't want to go to counseling because we didn't want to focus on our problems or differences. I wanted to learn how to communicate better/ more effectively, identify our weaknesses and focus on the resolution. That's what Couple Coaching with Carolyn did for us. We learned about our personal strengths and weaknesses. We learned where we came together as a couple and where we misunderstood each other. I learned that I had to lighten up and not take everything so seriously and so personally. Mike learned that he had to do his share around the house and engage in conversation and quality time with our family. We are more engaged again. We get along better, spend more time together, laugh more, help each other more, forgive quicker, and we don't really get mad at each other anymore. We are more of a team, and I feel like we are on the same page again. Couple Coaching with Carolyn has really helped our marriage on every level and I am so grateful to her for teaching us this program. We will always have it to fall back on and we use the information we learned every day. It's been a tremendous help for us.

Mike and Kelly
 
    quote
quote    
 

My husband, Matt, and I made the time and investment to do Couple Coaching with Carolyn Santos prior to getting married. We felt this was the best thing to invest in for our premarital counseling or coaching. Boy, we couldn't have hit it more on the head than we did. What a brilliant move on our part! At 35, I finally found my match in life. I am head over heels in love with a man that can be very similar, but also very different than myself. We have the same values, look at religion the same way, want the same amount of children, and have very similar family goals. Sounds like a match made in Heaven, right? Although we have a lot in common, we couldn't be more different in our communication styles and preferences. I tend to walk through life a mile a minute and wear my heart on my sleeve. Matt walks through life analyzing his next step to the inch and millimeter, then after much contemplation, slowly makes his next move. I found myself getting irritated with the fact that my husband doesn't make a quick decision, like I do. I actually once thought it may be laziness. What a derogatory way to view my husband, right? What I didn't know, prior to Couple Coaching with Carolyn, was that my husband initially processes everything on a cognitive level vs. emotional, like I do. He thinks and thinks and thinks and then finally after much thought...acts. I receive info and I instantly feel, act, then think about it. The way we process info pretty much dictates how we respond and act. By knowing how my husband receives info, I understand why he is acting the way he does. I understand how to best communicate in a way that he understands. My husband now understands the level on which I feel-which is pretty intense. I understand the level in which he contemplates everything before acting. I find that I have more patience with him because I know he is contemplating a solution in that head of his. He knows that I run around like a chicken because it's important for me to complete tasks. Basically, we learned what makes each other tick. I understand what is important to him and what causes him to become upset or uncomfortable and vice versa. What a gift this was to learn prior to promising to take care of each other for the rest of our lives. I felt as if I received the blueprint to my husband's makeup. I believe he feels the same way. Man, do I make a lot more sense to him now! Carolyn Santos, The Couple Coach is wonderful. I would say she is the communication whisperer! She is a natural when dealing with people about communication. I feel it is her gift to the world to teach this. So much so, that I didn't want to enter marriage without her tutelage and guidance. Carolyn made learning easy and entertaining. We found ourselves laughing often. She just made sense, and helped me understand myself and the people around me. She had a way of allowing us to communicate our concerns on a very safe level and environment. We discussed our strengths, weaknesses, and fears. Matt and I emerged into something greater because of Carolyn and the tools she put in our hands during couple coaching. Carolyn asked us to create a mission statement for our marriage. Something we would abide by and try to obtain throughout our marriage. This was so special to us that our mission statement became our wedding vows. I believe that everyone has room for better communication. Couple Coaching with Carolyn has changed our life and our relationship and helped make it even better. Matt and I value what we learned so much, that we vowed to revisit with Carolyn once or twice a year to maintain this level of communication and understanding. What a blessing Carolyn Santos has been to us. It is an investment worth making. I hope you make her part of your journey.

Matt and Jaime
 
    quote

 

quote    
 

Jason and I decided to do the Make the Magic Last Couple Coaching with Carolyn and use her as our officiate. We are very glad we did. When I first read the results of my communication analysis from Carolyn, I cried! I realized that there is a method to my madness and that I'm not crazy. I felt understood and 100 percent validated. The analysis had be pegged right down to my mannerisms and explain the telltale signs of when I'm under distress. They explained how I perceive situations and how I receive love. Unlike other personality profiles, it gets to the heart of the matter. Concerning my spouse Jason Cole, his results showcased a spotlight onto his personality. It helped me to see the areas where we have conflict are actually areas where our strengths and weaknesses are tugging in opposite directions. Carolyn used our results and explained how to communicate so that we are able to find a solution together. This coaching that Carolyn provided us aids both Jason and I to work together and not against each other. After couple coaching with Carolyn, we discovered we have been equipped with the tools we need for cultivating intimacy in our marriage and being healthy in our communication. Working with Carolyn as our officiate was nothing short of refreshing. She was full of great ideas and positive energy. She was affirming and a source of great help in our wedding. She was flexible on our meeting times and abided by our time and distance constraints. She was able to discern which matters of the heart to tread lightly upon and what areas needed to be exposed in tenderness. I highly recommend Carolyn Santos to coach all engaged couples before or after they begin their life together. 

Jason and Camisa
 
    quote

 

quote    
 

My husband, Matt, and I have consulted with Carolyn to help us learn about one other and maintain a strong and successful marriage. Matt was a bit skeptical as you might imagine. However, after our two-hour Couple Coaching appointment with Carolyn he was undone by how much better he knew himself and me. We have used this information in our marriage for two years and it's helped us in some sticky situations. We have committed to Couple Coaching with Carolyn every two years to get a marriage checkup. We aren't going to wait until it's broken, instead we feel it vital to get a checkup and stay on the right track with each other. I hope you will believe me when I say that Coaching with Carolyn Santos before or after marriage - is something you CAN'T afford NOT to do.

Matt and Julie
 
    quote

 

 

Stay Connected!

sign up for our free newsletter

Take the KLLP
Have you taken the Communication Assessment? Attended a seminar or workshop? Had a consultation with Carolyn? Share your experience